An old friend of mine contacted me the other day. Our friendship ended quite badly so i was surprised to get a message from her. I wondered if something was terribly wrong so I called her.
We talked for a very short while. It seems to me like she is overworked and needs some company. I would have obliged if it wasn't for the terrible way things ended with us. I used to think very highly of her, but when that fell i clearly saw everything that i had refused to accept for so long. When she contacted me and invited me to meet with her, i thought "Why in the world would i want to?".
Our friendship was very educational. I learned a lot of things in the years we were close friends but i don't feel the need to still be her friend. Yes, when we fought we both said some harsh things and i have forgiven her and she has forgiven me. There is no need for us to still be friends. Forgiveness does not mean that i would accept her back into my life. It just means that i have accepted the trouble and have moved on with it.
Another reason why i would rather not meet up with her is that she comes as a package deal with a bunch of people i would rather not hang out with. Each one of them has some major flaw and all the while i was in that group i never felt like i could trust any of them. in that group there was a pathological liar, a narcissist and an arrogant one. Sure i have my flaws too (i'm an egoist. My ego is probably bigger than the Eiffel tower), but i value loyalty in my friends.
I feel like i am seeing things clearly now. I'm perfectly happy with my life and with my close circle of friends. I dont need her friendship. Though she feels like she needs mine. I'm
having trouble deciding whether i should meet with her since she is
clearly in desperate need of reconnecting with me, or whether i should
just continue with my life. Any thoughts?
p.s. Mala, i'd love to hear your opinion. :-)
